It is not a good idea to change the standard behavior
of a window toolkit, it is preferable that people get used to them in an
homogeneous way (all apps behave the same), so the learning curve of new
applications don't rise unnecesarily.
My ad is that you instruct your users to alternate
the selection state of a row with the ctrl key pressed, probably they already
know it, because the have been using other applications.
cheers